In the modern day and time where the world has shrunk in distance and everyone is connected in the social space, it is common for students from one country to go to another country for the purpose of studying. Two decades ago, it might have been unusual to do so and it was relatively harder for children especially from the country I come from to convince parents and/or relatives to send them to a faraway land to seek education assuming financial resources and the academic requirements weren’t the constraint factors. In the world we live in, people are more aware of the culture and traditions, thanks to the social media and the number of international students have increased tremendously. There is a great emphasis on the exchange programs, teaching and learning of new cultures, culminating the stereotypes and enhancing the exposure of the ‘now’ students. This is a good thing right? Absolutely, it is a great way to become a more tolerant and knowledgeable version of yourself and there was no better time to become globally aware than now.
However, international students are migrants even if temporary and just like other migrants, they too at time face identity crisis. In my opinion, having talked to many of my colleagues, students face greater problems, mental and psychological (compared to the migrated families) which they themselves are oblivious about. Many have great experience living on their own, making friends but also experience loneliness, homesickness, emotional breakdown sudden increase in responsibilities, language/accent barrier, difficulty in finding like-minded people and other issues settling in at some point in their stay. Transition phase might be short or long depending on their personalities but there are common problems every international student could relate to. Talking from my experience so far, I often question my identity as a Pakistani student living in Canada who is not so desi like the students I meet here from Pakistan as I have spent my teenage in Middle East (UAE and Saudi Arabia) but also not so angrez as the Canadian born students with a Pakistani heritage. These migrations from country to country does lead to confusion, and again the two sides of migrating to developed nations for a better future can be debated for hours. I have seen the elderly missing their heritage and home countries but moved for security and better environment for children. But there are those who are contented with their move and have no regrets. However, one thing I observed is that migration and re-settlement are difficult and the locals should appreciate and play their role in making the new comers feel at home. For students who are working hard not just academically but finding their path towards permanent residency, trying to find jobs and settle down should be helped by others especially those who were once migrants themselves and have been through the whole phase of identity/social crisis and dealt with it. When I first came here, I tried meeting people from Pakistani society and understand the system, get support but it seems people are busy in their own work and have little time for the new comers. Communities should be welcoming and open for the students belonging from their nation who came on their own and help them connect to the right people, mentors , career counsellor and help keep the culture alive at the same time because one thing impacted the most due to globalization is amalgamation and blurred uniqueness of different cultures.
My Grandfather was one of the survivors of the partition between India and Pakistan in 1947. I thought of taking a quick interview of him so that the young generation can have an idea of the problems faced by the migrants and that making of a new country meant a lot of sacrifices and therefore a lot of responsibilities for the youth to be taken.
please wear headphones to listen. 🙂
Watan ki mithi gawah rehna
5 new things I learned/accomplished in the past 3 months for which I am thankful
1) As I have always been busy in my studies, I never used to get time to learn cooking. Nor did I ever bothered trying myself. However this time when I came home and was completely free from studies my mom asked me to learn a few dishes. So, in the past month I have learned making Kaal Masur di Daal ( Black Gram), Moong Masur di Daal (Yellow Gram) and Bhindi (Lady Finger). I am Thankful that at least I learnt a few dishes.
2) Second thing I am thankful of is that the burden of certification is over (for now at least). It was really difficult to prepare myself and read the six volumes of book and retain so much of the material. As it was my senior year at the university, there were a lot of events and parties and it was hard to study when all my friends were enjoining. So, I am glad that it’s done but I do hope that I pass.
3) Third thing that I learned last month was cycling. As a kid I remember riding a three wheeler but I never learned a bicycle.
4) This Eid, I applied Mehndi/Henna to people at a parlour and earned a good amount out of which I gave a proportion to charity. This was the first time, I donated and I felt really happy. I hope to continue working for social cause in the future as well.
5) I found out one of my closest friend on a social networking site and it was great talking to her after 5 complete years. After high school, she was out of touch with all the classmates, however it was truly a joy re-connecting with her.
I was previously using processed oils on my hair such as Amla Oil by Dabur and Coconut Oil by Parachute which have been good for hair growth but they had perfume and other chemicals added. Now that I have become conscious of using only natural ingredients on my hair and skin, I decided to change my hair oil.
This is when I went to AlFatah in DHA Lahore, and saw a huge range of oils by Go-Natural which claims of using 100% pure ingredients that are cold-pressed. I liked its transparent packaging and that one bottle goes a long way. Therefore I bought its coconut as well as Apricot oil and I have absolutely loved both of them.
This was the first time that I used Apricot Oil on my hair but as mentioned on its bottle, it does make my hair soft and shiny. The best thing about apricot oil is that it is absorbed by the hair quickly so the hair doesn’t look oily at all. I apply a little oil on my scalp and the ends, massage it and leave it on my hair for 30-45 mins. This oil is easier to wash and I have noticed hair growth as well. One could also apply the little oil on the hair tips after bath in order to control the frizz without spraying harsh chemicals.
Apricot oil as mentioned on GoNatural’s bottle is rich in Vitamin A and E which promotes hair growth. As it is made of 100% apricot, it is also safe to apply a little amount on the face as a moisturizer as apricot slows the ageing process. This oil is fragrance free and costs around Rs.360.
On the whole, I love this oil and would purchase other oils such as that of Black Seed and Pumpkin from Go-Natural.
This is my first beauty product review post.
I love taking care of my hair as it is the most noticeable part of a person and for that I like trying new hair related products. In order to keep my hair soft and free from split-ends, I oil them for 30 mins before every hair wash and will write about my hair-care routine in the coming posts.
I was in search of organic shampoos which are less harsh and are not concentrated with chemicals such as SLS and Paraben since a long time. Yesterday I was in a pharmacy and came across the whole Dr.organic Range. There were various types of shampoos catering to different hair type. The range consisted of Pomegranate, Tea-Tress,Lavender and a 2n1 Sea Salt Shampoo. I was undecided between the tea-tree (considering its antiseptic property) and Lavender and went for the latter one.
It costed be 45 riyals (SR) from a pharmacy,however the same was available at Lulu at a much lower price of 36SR which I saw later.
Dr.organic is famous for using Bio-active ingredients and certified natural extracts. It’s lavender shampoo claims three things:
Moreover, it has Lavender Oil and AloeVera Leaf Juice as the main ingredients. Although it claims to be free from Parabens,SLS(sodium Lauryl sulphate), artifical colours and Phthalates, it still has a few similar chemicals such as sodium lauroyl sarcosinate, glyceryl cocoate and sodium lauryl glucose carboxylate.
The shampoo is transparent in color and I really like its packaging. My hair felt cleaner and softer after the first wash and I did notice a decrease in hair fall with its usage over two weeks. Nevertheless, I have to apply a lot of shampoo as it doesn’t lather much. It also doesnt remove oil from my hair even after applying twice.
Overall, I would rate it 3.5/5.
Pros: Has less harsh preservatives and chemicals
Has natural ingredients such as Lavender Oil and Aloe Vera Oil
Makes hair soft and clean
Cons: Little expensive
Doesn’t remove oil and have to apply a relatively greater amount than other
My four years of undergraduate journey at LUMS have finished. In this course of time, I have observed a lot of people, became friends with a few while others left me in the middle of the journey. These four years life in a hostel, away from family has taught me several things and one of which is realization of others which I felt about writing today.
There were some friends who acted as free-riders in group projects/teamwork without realizing that other person is equally busy with other courses and when ever I used to make them realize, they got angry. Being friends doesn’t mean that you should take the other person as granted, instead a true friend should work equally hard in order to divide the burden.I have often experienced the free-riding/loafing problem which has made me immensely sad. I have also seen a lot of classmates who at the time near exams used to act extra-friendly in order to be given notes and be taught the exam material and acted as complete strangers right after the exams. Although these people have made me think about the nature of human kind and whether the competition of ‘being the best’ makes one not realize the others humans and instead hurt them, I have also been blessed with a few good friends who were always there for me in thick and thin. They have made my journey of LUMS alot more better and would like to thank all of them for their presence in my life.
I believe that life is very short and instead of exploiting others in order to stay ahead in competition, people should not use others for their own gain and leave them once the work is done. We should treat others just the way we want others to treat us as reciprocity or karma is a spiritual principle. If one is taking the help of others,he should be thankful of the other person’s act of kindness instead of forgetting it.
So I am writing this blog post after four months and 8 days to be exact.
2016 was a fine year except when I look around me and watch the news channel, there was so much trauma happening which I really hope would reduce in this new year. I pray that my Syrian brothers find solace and those seeking refuge in other countries become successful. There were so many air crashes this year with the recent being the the PIA accident and the one in Russia, I pray that may God give the families of these victims patience to bear the loss and I hope that no one dies such an unexpected death. I also pray for all those students studying to pass out with flying colors and make their parents proud. May God bless everyone with good health and guide all of us to follow the good deeds. May the suffering in this world end and everyone gets prosperity.
I welcome 2017 with a beacon of light and lots of hopes.
Wishing all my readers a very happy New Year!!!
Life is so busy that we rarely get time to sit back, reminiscing old joys or simply enjoying an afternoon tea. While in present we tend to think about the future and how to make it better. But how fool a man is, little does he know whats gonna happen with him next. But it would not be justice to put the entire blame on a man as this is how the world expects him to behave. As an Asian student, the society expects him to study hard and get the best grades he can. The teachers, parents and even the distant relatives want him to study and study. But what if he has some other talent say painting, No one really cares about it.
India has the highest number of suicides committed by students because of extreme competition and pressure to study. And when asked by elders why do they want their child to put in so much of the efforts, their answer is that it will lead to a better future. My question to all those parents is that what if the child develops an incurable disease because of extreme stress? So, why ruin the present for the future so unpredictable? Every child is different and will reach where he is destined to.
As soon as a man starts working, he sets goals for himself: promotion or to become the CEO in say the next seven years.And for this he might tell lies, do unnecessary buttering or get involved in organisation’s politics. He destroys his current peace of mind for the future peace. I am not saying that every one in the top position does that…No…but many do.
Every day I observe so many people in Coffee shops having a cold coffee or a dessert while busy on phone, arranging meetings or writing reports and I am one of them as well. We are always thinking about the future…completing work before deadline to avoid future penalty, to get greater pay, future recognition etc but do you ever think that this stressful life has an adverse affect on our health!
We need to take out time for ourselves from the busy routine we are expected to follow. We should learn to live in the ‘present’ and find joy in the small things happening around us before it is too late. We need to slow down and take a break to find our purpose of existence rather than doing things because of societal pressure.
Amidst Atlantic ocean
About to land missisaga
Mesmerized and awestruck by how beautiful God’s earth is. The blueness of the sky,the freshness of the clouds and the greenery of the land felt like a dream.
A letter I wrote two years back on Mothers Day when I was in my university.